This was the place I was born and raised; where nobody had to whisper the “n word” or hesitate to stick some feathers in their hair and paint their skin red as a sign of school spirit.
Growing up in New Hampshire didn’t prevent me from making friends or dating guys who weren’t white.
I have my own unique experiences and some of them include having dated women who are white, but because interracial dating is such a historically tense and loaded subject, it's hardly ever looked at with any understanding or compassion for the people personally involved.
The concept of a black man in a relationship with a white woman is a "thing" that people have an opinion on, and that opinion comes with an entire set of stereotypes, fueled by racist ideology, a complicated past, and sometimes even pop culture.
To put it bluntly, many White people simply have no idea what they are getting into when they begin relationships with people of color. If you don’t believe racism exists, don’t date interracially.
A significant other who dismisses or trivializes those realities could never provide adequate support for their non-White partner in relationship.This can sometimes translate into a lack of even that racism exists and is experienced by others.A romantic relationship is supposed to provide a safe space for individuals to express their feelings and come to terms with their life experiences.The white men who can get past the mental anguish of my black penis tarnishing "their" women think I'm making some latent admission that their race has the most attractive women.White women range from those so intrigued by black men that it veers into fetish to those so reluctant to date black men that it feels more racist than preference-driven.
This will not only make her feel fresh but buoyant as well.