The first time had to do with a close girlfriend, and the other involved a toxic ex-boyfriend (whom she and everyone else who loved me tried every which way to get me to walk away from).
My mom and I have always had an amazing closeness -- we can share almost anything -- but I'll admit these were two times that we had some serious tension between us.
Most parents have some fears of the day their child will start dating.
It is the big sign that they’re growing up and are entering adulthood.
He is on probation and cannot drive, so my daughter now often drives him.
Now she is considering turning down her scholarship because he doesn’t want her to leave the area. Can you give us any advice on how to redirect her thinking?
I know you probably want to pull your hair out knowing your daughter's friend doesn't deserve her, or are wishing that her boyfriend would just move to another city (or country... Unfortunately, there's no magic dust I can send you to make that person go away, but I can give you some suggestions from our amazing Ask Elizabeth girls and experts on how to deal with the situation.
There's no one-size-fits-all answer; every situation is different, and only you can know which approach is right for your specific dynamic.
Whether it's a new boyfriend who seems like he's bad news or a friend who sets off that little warning light in your brain, deciding how to handle these kinds of situations is one of the biggest struggles I've heard moms talk about.
On the one hand, because you're such a protective and loving mom, you probably want to barricade the front door and not let that person within 10 feet of your precious girl (believe me, when I've heard girls in workshops talk about bad news boyfriends or mean friends, I've felt the exact same way! But at the same time, you don't want to go too far and drive a wedge between the two of you. When I received this question from a Huff Post reader, it took me back to two particular times when my own mom and I were facing this issue.
Q: “Our 18-year-old daughter has been involved with someone for almost three years, and we really don’t approve of him.