Dating a musician is a lot like communism: It sounds good in theory, but in practice, it can leave you cold and frustrated, eating canned beets for dinner.Whether we’re talking about caterwauling coffeehouse singer-songwriters or first-chair concert violinists, musicians simply aren’t like other people.They’re , and the only things more unstable than their moods are their career prospects.Next time you consider going out to dinner with that quirky-cute ukulele chick down the hall or your friend’s friend who plays guitar in a band that once opened for the Shins, make sure you read and memorize this list.• Musicians/Artists regularly get groupies after all their shows. And to every dude dreaming of becoming a rock star just for the chicks, I may have just shattered your hopes and dreams.Sorry (but not sorry), the truth is you’ll never make it on that motivation alone.
Almost daily, I see some loser guy acting like a savage in order to get a woman’s attention. But the reality though is that when women meet me, they immediately start thinking I’m a player once they find out I’m an r&b singer. I’m a digital marketing analyst, a singer, songwriter, producer and as of last year, I’ve been documenting all of my music experiences via my blog and as a contributing writer to Digital Music News. Aside from that – I have very ambitious long term career goals, and I’m pretty busy trying to achieve them.
But whether you’re a male or female in the music industry, there are various complexities that can make romance extremely challenging. • Musicians/Artists get panties (or bras, or boxer shorts) thrown at them.
Before I even get into it, let me properly preface this with some important context. To every non-musician reading this, you’re just an outsider looking in. Here are some of the most common false truths about musicians when it comes to dating, especially for up-and-coming musicians: • Musicians/Artists get TONS of gorgeous women falling for them. Now I’ll be honest, I have my fair share of female supporters, but nothing comes close to an official ‘groupie’.
The reality is this: groupies don’t care about you when you’re on the come up, because you’re likely broke and struggling.
Sadly, the groupies are trying to weasel their way into the VIP at Gansevoort to get a glimpse at Trey Songz, not come to your show at some hole-in-the-wall joint. Let me further explain why actual dating as a musician is so hard.
I’ll be writing this article based on my personal experience as a single male musician.