D., an ob/gyn who practices at Southside OBGYN and Franciscan Alliance in Indianapolis, Indiana, tells SELF.Dating With was created by Herpes Support Group Leaders to provide accurate, up-to-date info for people who have genital herpes (HSV-1, HSV-2) and their partners and families.When she was diagnosed with herpes almost three years ago, Whitney Carlson, 29, a social media editor in Chicago, had a similar reaction.“I mostly thought, ‘I’m going to die alone, no one’s going to date me ever again,” she tells SELF.If you are one to be candid with people, you'll want to blurt it out. There are some things you should reveal about yourself right away -- for example, that you're married, or that you're just in town for the week -- but some things are better left for the appropriate moment.
She’s used to it now, but when she was first diagnosed nine years ago, it didn't feel so normal.
Genital herpes doesn't detract from your many desirable qualities, which have drawn people to you in the past and will continue to make you a great catch. The first date after a genital herpes diagnosis may seem a little strange, however.
And it's important to understand that genital HSV is very common, affecting about 20% of the U. If you hope to be sexually intimate with your date at some point, you may feel like you're keeping a secret.
A high school friend and I wound up taking our friendship a little further, and 20 seconds into the act that would change my life forever, he stopped.
My friend said I was too much like a sister, and he couldn't continue. I worried about how that incident would affect our friendship.