Fortunately, the very question of what is considered too young-or old-has been pondered by the French, who developed a useful formula called "Half Your Age Plus Seven?
" To determine the range of what is considered socially acceptable, divide your own age in half and then add seven.
I guess it was because I'd heard two or three stories of the woman being seven years older, so I'd sort of decided that was the outer limit of age difference acceptability. (And I would hit 31 a month before his next birthday.) Feeling defeated, I sat at the small wooden table in Starbucks, where I was meeting Kevin for the first time since my startling discovery. In case you're wondering, I married that guy eight months later.
I don't know why this one year made such a difference to me.
When we see younger older relationships, such as the late Anna Nicole Smith married to someone who could have been her grandfather, or the older Demi Moore married to the younger Ashton Kutcher, we often think to ourselves "it must be for sex or money." But are those the only things about younger older relationships?
Or is there more to it, something that defies logic at a glance, yet works so well for the couple?
From a sexual attraction standpoint, I challenge you to stand me shirtless next to Sophia Loren in Look, Steely Dan probably couldn’t talk at all to "Hey Nineteen" because they admittedly had "nothing in common." Not because she was too young to name an Aretha Franklin song (which, like, come ON, Steely Dan); the idea that people are what pop culture references they know reduces falling in love to trading trivia. A lot of women have told me they won’t date younger men because of maturity issues, and that’s probably where the idea of a prohibitive "age gap" comes into play for a lot of people.
Some of us limit our potential partners to a very specific age range because that’s what we think we’ll be attracted to.
In , a 1953 film adaptation of the 1951 play by Frederick Hugh Herbert, Maggie Mc Namara—playing 22-year-old Patty O’Neill—asks her 30-year-old suitor, “Haven’t you ever heard that the girls is supposed to be half the man’s age, plus seven? In the 1950s, Nation of Islam leader Elijah Muhammad “taught that a wife’s ideal age was half the man’s age plus seven”; this age gap should make up for women’s maturing more quickly than men, as well as ensure that the husband was sufficiently authoritative over his wife.
When Malcolm X met his future wife Betty Sanders, he interpreted the fact that their ages fit the rule of seven as a sign that they were destined for each other.
According to the rule, the age of the younger partner (regardless of gender) should be no less than seven more than half the older partner’s age.
Martin, then, shouldn’t date anyone younger than 26 and a half; Lawrence shouldn’t go above 34.
"After we prayed, Travis took up the courage and said those exact words! "That's what I had been waiting for." Although many of the questions I receive are from women who are considering whether or not to date a younger man, many of the same principles apply to the decision-making process regardless of who's older.