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I’ve been reading your advice column in the Coast in Halifax for a while, and it seems that most solutions to relationship problems revolve around sex.
According to the website Poly Coach, these include: And considering that every poly couple is in a relationship with one or more other people, that’s a lot of agreements between a lot of people. In a monogamous relationship, there may be issues with emotional and sexual frustration, because – as the poly guys remind me – “you can’t expect to have all your needs met by just one person”. All relationships require us to manage our emotions, compromise, and work hard to stay connected to the other. Human beings do have a strong drive to pair bond, and to establish sexual exclusivity.
(Well, that’s why I have friends, I always respond, but it’s not really what they mean.)Polyamory does away with frustration (theoretically, anyhow), and replaces it with compersion – the feeling of joy one gets when a loved one is experiencing romantic or sexual pleasure. And it’s kind of lovely not to have to share the joy of your partner’s body.
What about someone who doesn’t want to have sex, ever?
Sex columnist Dan Savage, for example, regularly preaches the benefits of “open” and “monogamish” relationships on his hugely popular podcast. And yet none of the people in open relationships seem to have a problem with those.“Monogamy isn’t natural”, but neither is polyamory (or “ethical non-monogamy”, as it is also called). And much of what is acceptable now – homosexuality, kink, pre-marital sex – was considered to be aberrant back then, or still is in other societies.
And poly proponents are quite passionate about their choice. Polygyny (one man with several female partners) and polyandry (one women with several men) is out of favour, but polyamory is gaining traction as a sexual/romantic lifestyle.
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As for “taking one for the team,” that’s not advice given only to asexuals.