Society tells them they’re beautiful and they’re mad at Tinder and Ok Cupid for not providing better prospects. I’m the average-looking sidekick, “the one who online dates,” and it’s my fault they aren’t having a better time. My best friend, who looks like the racially ambiguous lovechild of Brad Pitt and Pocahontas, waves her phone at me in righteous indignation. Several of my “classically attractive” friends are pissed.When it comes to modern dating, nearly every woman I know can point to at least one aspect of the whole rigmarole that always seems to get in the way of finding that special person or thwarts their best intentions. For example, one thing that frustrates me as a single guy is the pervasive need for options.Especially with digital dating, we are bombarded with options.From grade-school dances in gyms to corporate happy hours, I’ve been “swiped left” on more than my fair share. You’ll date more attractive men.] As it turns out, my good-looking friends aren’t completely out of touch.
I’m not ugly, but I don’t have much beauty privilege (and make no mistake, beauty privilege yields tangible rewards). “I don’t have to.” [Go ahead, ladies, make the first move.We can “swipe left,” scroll through profile after profile, send a wink, message, and even see how many mutual friends we share.We can see someone's likes, music taste, articles they’ve read, and so on.Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.OK so there are a few threads on this but none of them address the specific questions I have. I don’t mean women who like to win, play sports, or generally succeed.
A week ago, fellow PT blogger Mark White wrote a post about the fact that "there are valuable insights that can be gleaned from basic economic principles applied to situations usually not regarded as economic in nature, especially marriage, family - and dating." To illustrate his point, he mentioned a post I had written about women's competition for "good men." He proposes that this competition could be seen as an application of the prisoner's dilemma (which he nicely describes).