The users of the secret-sharing app, Whisper, have revealed their own experiences of being a cougar; recounting both the threat - or reality - of being dumped, and the joys of feeling sexy and 'in control'.'My cub left me...
"The women," he says, "were more interested in men their own age or older." As for the men, he says: "I guess it could be nice not to hang around a ditz with no knowledge of music or something like that." Getting over the "shoulds" "We have strong 'shoulds' on ways of partnering up," Kathryn Elliott, Ph. We should marry people within two years of our age.
The women like the flexibility and sense of adventure of their more spontaneous, younger companions, Tina B. D., a licensed family therapist in practice in Long Beach, Calif., and author of "The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again", tells Web MD.
For their part, the men like the sophistication and life success of their older mates, she explains.
Besides, these younger men usually have little reason to stray.
Meanwhile, the younger man is still in a stage of robust sexuality and more apt to explore his desires with a currently open and willing partner.
D., assistant professor of psychology at the University of Louisiana at Lafayette, explains to Web MD. We pathologize anything that isn't within those shoulds." The key to making older women/younger man relationships work, Elliott says, is to match what she calls voltages.