If many of the women in your city wore burkas, as well as many on TV and in magazines, sure, you'd have a case with the shoulder-showing thing. You go to places like Miami, and merely walking around in PG-rated skin showing for a middle aged woman without a "beach bod", isn't going to register at all with "sex hungry" men. Skin itself isn't going to make a woman seem naughty/easy/willing at all to sex-hungry men. Especially with women (or men) who don't have beach bodies, wearing shorts or tops with bare arms & shoulders isn't going to make someone alluring on a sexual nature in our over-exposed society, so one has a lot of leeway. Attraction is going to bring in people (of any type).
Showing cleavage, extra skin above the mid thigh area in shorts, or just a bikini top -- that can/will send sexual signals, which is actually what you're concerned about... You should just want to look attractive in what you wear & your style.
Although pronouncing your handle may seem counterintuitive, (this is online dating after all!
) it will come in handy once you start meeting people.
As we all know, people normally like compliments, but when they’re used as pick-up lines, before you’ve even met in person, they inevitably feel…ew.
Besides, when you tell a woman she’s beautiful, chances are you’re not.
———————————————————— Of all the things that clients (especially men) ask me to help them with, the most common query involves assistance with writing introductory emails.
Very few online dating companies who ask for your real first name like Yahoo Personals does, but in these cases it is highly recommended that you create a fake user name anyway, to ensure your own personal safety.
But not only does your handle need to be unique, it also needs to be personal, interesting and somehow indicative of who you are, without being off putting, too long or a challenge to pronounce.
Scientifically, this is because it’s a little evil sounding.
So, in short, it’s okay to laugh, but keep the rest of your message grammatical and punctuated.