Every time you experience a negative reaction to your ex dating, stop and go through the list of reasons you are no longer married. Is it possible you are uncomfortable with the idea of your ex dating because you are stuck and unable to move forward with your life?Remembering the negative aspects of your marriage can go a long way in helping alleviate any the unpleasant idea of him/her dating again. I’m sure you’ve heard that saying, “The best revenge is living well.” Well, it’s true!John was new to our IT department and so we were co-workers in a sense but only spent a limited amount of time together.We didn't share office space but we did see one another from time to time, in the hallways, quick conversations in the cafeteria that turned into longer talks in the parking lot over the course of a year of getting to know each other.In general, men are much better at separating their work life from their family life, their sex from their romance, and their lover from their wife.
No one, I think, chooses to be thought of as slut, homewrecker, or "other" but then there is a moment that each one of us can recognize as defining.
And if you've never seen it, go You Tube the legendary clip of Marilyn Monroe purring "Happy Birthday, Mr. Why am I admitting to being a former man stealer, home wrecker, [insert unflattering noun here]? But somehow, after interviewing the women you're about to meet, my past doesn't seem so shameful. So here you go: seven true stories of heartbreak, hijinks and huge life lessons told by OWs (whose names and identifying details have been changed--you'll see why!
For most, the idea of borrowing or stealing another woman's man is unthinkable. Full confession: I was an OW years ago, and I can tell you it felt destructive, decadent, impossible, inevitable. Every day I vowed to end the damage I was inflicting on my life, his life, her life....
It would be less of a punch in the gut if you had watched your marriage going down hill for some time, but often with men, that isn’t the case.
Men and women handle their thinking and their emotions in different ways.
If you are like many of the women I work with, you have either just discovered your husband’s affair or have been told by him that he is leaving you for someone else.