We caught up with two local experts on teen relationships and sexuality and asked for their tips on setting guidelines for kids entering the dating game.
Lynn Ponton, University of California San Francisco professor of adolescent psychiatry and author of The Sex Lives of Teenagers and The Romance of Risk, and Nancy Brown, a developmental psychologist and education projects manager for Palo Alto Medical Foundation, both agree: Parents should set the stage for safe dating long before their child becomes a teen.
Suggest other things to do with someone rather than have sex.
It may seem silly, but many times sex comes up as an option because teens are bored and have nothing else to do or think about. If they stay busy enough, they’ll probably end up having to say no less. If your teen just brushes off the issue without making their opinions clear, they will face the same problem over and over again. While they may want to give reasons, but they shouldn’t have to. Even if your child has already had sex, don’t let up on teaching them to say no.
I am a Marriage and Family Therapist that serves in four local high schools in Northern California.
The business is booming with all the troubles teens are having at home and at school.
Talking about relationships once they reach school age is step two. ” Share your values, but be sure to ask your child what he thinks creates a healthy, loving relationship.
What can a parent do to make sure their dating teens are happy and safe?
It is hard to keep up with the number of troubled kids in ninth through twelfth grades.
Many are suffering from unhealthy home lives, which translate into desperate times in school.
Model Healthy Relationships Being a good role model to our kids as we interact with our spouses and others is the first step toward ensuring they’ll develop healthy connections as teens and adults, Ponton and Brown say.
Enforcing rigid gender stereotypes or engaging in harmful relations ourselves can set our kids up for relationship woes later on.
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