She has told me that she would rather be with me than him. And she’s struggling with how she can walk in and just destroy his world. It actually amuses me a bit to see such certainty and judgment from some of the commenters who have no idea about the details of my situation. Like Robert Browning’s “The Last Duchess,” the narrative reveals more about the speaker than the “duchess.” Your filters reveal your experiences and biases but have nothing to do with me and my situation. After she’s had a few transitional months to herself, I’ll join her there and our life together will officially begin. Her family is starting to accept the way things are. I’ve been essentially living with her for about 6 months. I totally realize that we went about things entirely the wrong way. However, this may be a case of “all’s well that ends well.” I wouldn’t recommend it to anyone. I guess the reason I wrote this in the beginning , and the reason I’ve continued to update it, is that I know I’m not the only one to experience this. Reading some of the comments, I realize that we all have our own filters in place and may be incapable of being objective about any of it. She has told me that she knows her real happiness can only be achieved with me. She knows her family (and his) will be devastated and very disappointed in her. A few weeks after this story was posted, we took a trip out of town for a week together. They haven’t completely come around but they are making motions in that direction. We have discussed our intention to marry, but we haven’t firmed up any plans. She has struggled with guilt over how things transpired. Our only liasons have been in the closet once at work, and the back seat of his suv in a parking lot. I figure nothing can really come of it -- I am so much older, we are both married, etc. He is pretty aloof with me (I imagine he is having his own mental mess over this) but we are professional with each other at work (except when I tempt him via a message to meet me) and we have a few very passionate moments.
Cheaters interact sexually with multiple women under false pretenses.Although our marriage has been rocky, I just did not feel the need to seek gratification elsewhere. I am beyond redemption in this, and I figure he does not want me as much as I want him.ABout 3 years ago my husband developed Diabetes and the sex simply has stopped. I have questions in my mind, but frankly, I don't care.Many people have an online affair because an affair website makes it so much easier to meet people anonymously and safely.It's not always straightforward to read whether someone is keen for a no strings encounter when you meet them in a bar, but on a site dedicated to extramarital flings, it is obvious!
There's a difference between players and cheaters.