What my therapist boyfriend (let’s call him Brady – he’s a real life therapist, so we have to be confidential here! Duh, listening is his job, but I mean, he actually hears what I am saying. This can lead to the dreaded over-analyzation tunnel, where two hours later both people are like, “Hrm, did we just talk ourselves in a circle? I’m a list-maker and problem solver by nature, so I think that helps.
Even if you do believe in the idea of a soulmate, not even your physical, mental, and spiritual ideal can possibly stand up to the stringent list of demands we all tally in our heads while dating.If the two of you click, the conversation will flow.If you carry the conversation, you won’t witness whether or not the two of you are conversationally compatible.Ask questions, get to know her and watch to see if she wants to get to know you too.It’s sweet to try and impress her, but dating is about furthering your knowledge about the person and then deciding if you want to continue. Create some for them to miss you and in the meantime, get on with your life. If you want to text a “Thank you I had a great time would you like to do it again?
It’s an important difference in that professional boundaries are in place and should remain that way.