This guy will be the ideal man, following all the gentlemanly rules, take you out for dinner, be enthusiastic about you, be interested in your life and listen attentively, thinks you’re the best thing since sliced wine even though he drinks beer, he will be so seemingly genuinely into you, he’ll say he wants to be exclusive and not date other people … These men also exhibit implicit narcissistic and selfish behaviors.He pursued and wooed me to precision but was real and down to earth at the same time. We went out for drinks, we went out for dinner, we went to the movies, we hung out at my place, we hung out at his place, we took his dog for a walk holding hands, you know real stuff. But we all know what happens when something is too good to be true …He will be proud of finding you and tell them how lucky he is.On the contrary, a player will show you off as a valued object of interest to his friends. Metaphorically speaking, players are like puppet masters pulling your strings and guiding you with cunning intelligence, pushing you into whatever roll they want you to play. I meet someone I like and they seem good at first and then BAM they either disappear into a black hole or they, um, “trip” on my foot and fall in because they get on my nerves. I met this guy online in one of my “I’m bored let’s see what’s online” phases and was pleasantly surprised … Players seek to control your behavior by maneuvering and blanketing you in a masquerade of deception.
Why, because he is a player – and you are not the only gal he is playing with. Thus, acknowledging the alarming signs he is a player will be helpful for you before you begin to develop too deep of emotions and feelings in that relationship.
To level the playing field, she avoided giving him her cell-phone number so he didn't have access to her anytime, anyplace. By taking your time calling him back, you become a catch, not a convenience.
When he'd leave a message on her home line, Laura waited at least a day to call back. The waiting game lets you test his willingness to pursue, adds Ellen Kreidman, Ph D, author of The game plan: When you date a guy you dig and get that urge to share your personal experiences, opinions, history...stop!
Allow him to simmer, wondering what you're doing." Laura,* 21, won over her boyfriend using this trick.
"Andrew looks like Brad Pitt's little brother, and I knew he was used to women being at his beck and call," she says. But I'm all ears now.' He felt lucky to have caught up with me." How everybody wins: Men, says Argov, equate longing with love.
You may not be happy about your relationship, and you do not trust your boyfriend. There comes a phase where we are confused if the boy we are dating with is a keeper or a player. I have made up a list of signs he is a player in order to help you know for sure.