If there’s emotional attachment then there could be problems down the road in making a firm commitment or there could also be comparisons to the other person. After all, leaving a bad relationship and entering in to another, most is not looking for someone sick or with major problems to deal with.
Unfortunately, our deeply engrained habits supersede our best intentions, and within weeks, we usually fall back into the same old ways.
Likewise, a partner who regularly pressures you to sin sexually reveals what they desire most—and it is neither your purity nor God’s glory. But how your partner treats your purity and their own is something that should be discussed, not ignored.
From the way some young Christians talk, it is clear there’s a misconception that marriage solves the problem of lust. Repeated sexual sin, pornography use, and lack of self-control when dating will surely follow a person into marriage if not dealt with and repented of. It has often been said that how a man treats his mother and sister reveals how he will eventually treat his wife.
Regardless of your resolutions, goals, or vision board, the result we want is to be happy and fulfilled.
With that in mind, here are some key questions to ask yourself this new year. Do you depend on your partner or relationship to be your source of fulfillment and to give you validation for your sense of self-worth?
In the same way, how your partner treats strangers, like the cashier at the grocery store or the waiter at the restaurant, speaks to how they view people in general—their worth, value, and dignity.