D., associate professor at Indiana University and author of the newly released book "They know the question is going to get turned back on them.Get tested yourself, and the conversation will be much easier." (Asking about test history is one of the 7 Conversations You Must Have for a Healthy Sex Life.)Even if this is just a casual relationship, you want to know if he's seeing other women.
You need to accept that you could not be included in all of his life goals.
to ask both your partner and yourself before you get in bed.
Some are obvious—almost everybody knows to ask about STIs and birth control, and it makes sense to have a conversation about where the relationship is going. For example, how do you ask a guy you've just met whether he's an arrogant jerk who's selfish in bed? But that doesn't mean you can't figure it out with a few less direct questions.
Despite what movies tell us, there's no hard and fast rule about when you should have sex with your new guy for the first time.
Maybe it's five minutes after you meet him, or maybe it's after marriage—no judgment!
However, you can still do a lot during those early stages of checking each other out to boost your odds of making it work for you!