Needless to say, this created a heated conversation of why he didn’t invite me to come along with him.
When I was dating I remember constantly being smothered with that giant question like a bloated bear was sitting on my head, refusing to move. To magically stumble upon like finding the gold at the end of a rainbow that is being carried by a unicorn with leprechaun jockey.
Ask the following questions to help you determine if he is the one for you forever.
Maybe we even know someone for whom the story is true. Add enough charisma to the recipe and it might seem like God cooked up the ultimate catch, just for you.
Nice Single Christian meets Super-Duper Other Christian. But the Fake will have no real accumulation of real repentance. Not only will they have never truly repented of something, but the idea itself will also be foreign.
Why doesn’t he seem to care that much about spiritual things? And one day, while you’re having coffee together, Nice Not-So-Single Christian leans toward you and blurts it out: they’re stuck. Does your potential special friend’s life demonstrate a consistent pattern of real repentance in response to Scripture? Be blunt in pursuing satisfactory answers to this question. Because demonstrated, biblical repentance in their life will tell you the following Wishy-washy, non-committal, or “I don’t know” answers to your questions about repentance are red flags and call for a full stop. Because asking about repentance weeds out many of the two types of people you want no part of dating: Fakes and Fringes. They’ll talk a good game, and thus look great in Christian contexts. It’s easy to just say things because the tongue has a direct connection to our imagination, and our imagination has a direct connection to our sin nature. Admittedly, part of the challenge of dating is that it can be difficult sometimes to observe a person’s life.
” “It’s so confusing—we started dating because I saw her at a Bible study, so I just assumed she loved Jesus.” We’ve all heard the stories at least once. A skilled Fake can play in the praise band, lead the Bible study, own a Rich Mullins record, drop the trendy conference names, and speak Christian lingo with convincing fluency.
I see them making choices about dating divorced men similar to ones I made.