But the lack of interest in her Tinder profile led her to suspect the opposite might be the case."I think that people are really reluctant to reach out across a racial divide," she said.And my experience was different than the ones my friends and people I overheard at the coffee shops and bars were having. And I had a suspicion that my blackness was playing a role.I had a fellow Ph D student who was nice enough to let me do a photo shoot with her.Describe what happened when you first tried online dating?The first time I put up my profile I got a trickle of messages.
Then, she tried a photo of herself, digitally altered to make her appear Caucasian, and saw even more messages filling up her inbox.In the first three days I was on the site, I received five messages and the first few days you're on the site, you're supposed to receive the most messages because you're the fresh meat, the new face, but I wasn't getting that.And then over time I got a steady stream of one or two messages a day. People I knew that were on these sites were reporting deluges of messages and not being able to keep up with the messages they were getting, getting a lot of messages when they first logged into the site. Yes, I am a social scientist, so I like data to back up my assertions.On the whole, the process of online dating is a great thing.Singles dress up their bios with pithy zingers in an attempt to match with other bae-less individuals.
Sometimes this pairing leads to an awkward exchange.