Sometimes, our pasts, our selfishness, our own insecurities get in the way of really loving each other well.This is why Saint Thomas Aquinas, one of the Doctors of the Church, said love is an act of the will.Instead of interacting with the people around her, she chose to search for a companion elsewhere online.I wondered to myself, is this what online dating has done to us?Is it creating a new reality in which people actively avoid real-life interactions?Of course, others have worried about these sorts of questions before.
Efforts dedicated to making friends are on the rise, with dating-like apps such as VINA, and Wiith.
Friends would tell me marriage is work, it’s not all fun and games, and I would say, I know, I know, I want that work, I long for that work.
And of course some part of me dreamed about that field of daisies we would prance in together, and the cute babies we would raise, and just having someone to ask me how I am doing every single day and look me right in the eye as I’d share with him my heart. Today, I sit in my house with laundry in the dryer and a husband mowing the lawn. But those friends were right: some days, Andy and I just don’t like each other very much!
The week that Andy and I got married, I was incredibly stressed and we were both exhausted. We were driving each other crazy and at some points not even speaking to each other.
But on our wedding morning, I woke up with incredible joy (not to mention an alarm clock singing, “don’t worry, be happy”), and a friend handed me a letter from my soon-to-be husband.
Always keen to meet new people, I decided to give Bumble BFF a go to see if I could make a new best friend.