She’s a brilliant researcher, talented musician and a wonderful friend. I have shared my concerns but she says she loves him and that I simply don’t understand what a great guy he is.”Unfortunately, Katie’s response is typical. There is a good chance your friend will ignore you, but you owe it to her to say something. Whether it’s friend to friend, mother to daughter, or a sister to sister—we’ve all been there. I recently got a phone call from a woman who was panicked about her sister’s upcoming wedding. She’s engaged to a total loser and is about the make the biggest mistake of her life. She cooks, she cleans, and she pays his bills while he sits around playing video games all day.Start off by pointing out some of her best qualities. You understand your friend’s strengths and weakness. Try to sit down with her and share your concerns in a way that does not come across as judgmental. We use this approach a lot in therapy and it is a wonderful tool for defusing difficult conversations. Help your friend by eliminating any excuses she has for not ending the relationship.
Women put their blinders on when it comes to men and shut out their friend’s comments and concerns. Here are five things you can do to help her see the light:1. Yes, she might get defensive or it may damage your friendship.
Does that mean we should just keep our mouths shut? But think about it this way—if she does end up marrying the loser, your friendship will most likely be impacted anyway.
Who wants to hang out with an unemployed video-game addict? Validate, then activate It’s easier to see the truth from a position of strength rather than weakness.
After my major meltdown over the age difference (she is immature...
After my major meltdown over the age difference (she is immature for 16) I attempted to get to know him.