I'm scared this might be the end of our perfect love."Oof. I should point out that our friends at How About We do have services for couples, not just singles…but I can't really explain away Tinder, so I think you're right to be concerned.
That said, I don't necessarily think this spells certain doom for your relationship.
I'm scared to argue over the phone about this so I investigated my leads and found his profile to be deactivated but that still doesn't necessarily demonstrate his intentions on those sites.
I'll be seeing him in less than a week for the first time in months to celebrate our four-year anniversary, and I don't know what to do and how I should address it assuming I even mention it.
Don't get me wrong: In your shoes, I would be upset, but I think it's possible you can get through this.
Here's how I think you should do it…First of all, I think you're right to not have this conversation over the phone.
Recently, I found out that he had downloaded apps on his phone (Tinder and How About We) sometime after I moved away.
I assure you I didn't find out in a dishonorable way; it was purely an accident that I wish I could forget.
USING that site for its intended purposes – to meet new women? I’ll be the first to admit – online dating can be addicting – especially when you’re getting a lot of attention.
Therefore, to answer: what you've received is most likely spam.
A quick search for found that they've used several Florida-based Google Voice phone numbers to spam random cell numbers with the message, "Hi I put a pic on my page on just sign in and check it out ;-)".
My boyfriend – who is over 60 – has had more dates than anyone I know and still receives notifications of women who have emailed him constantly.
He has told me about some of them and still hears from many of them. Whenever I have to go to a social function, it shows that he has been on reviewing matches sent to him.