of singles crawl dating sites and apps, flipping through photos and profiles of potential matches. Here at WIRED, we couldn’t help but think there might be a better way to optimize your chances, so we pulled massive amounts of data from Ok Cupid and Match.com, searching for tips that might help you master Internet dating and find someone awesome. Finding a date, let alone love, just isn’t easy—even though there are plenty of apps for that. Most of them get hurt, give up and never go back to it. But if you pace yourself, you’ll lessen your odds of burnout—and increase your odds of success.” —Bev Bacon, author of down-to-earth, show you’re funny or down-to-earth by sharing a story about a time you were one of those things. It might be tempting to stare at the screen for four hours at a stretch, but anything in excess is usually a bad thing. We all know those gung-ho people who start exercise regimens and overdo it that first week. Users skim profiles looking for a reason to send a message or dismiss (hint: do not mention your mom or exes).Call it the algorithm method: Working with data crunchers at the dating sites, we put together 25 tips for writing the perfect profile, selecting the right photo, and really understanding your audience. Maybe this message will be different than all the others. Perhaps this email will finally be the one that doesn't have you contemplating the potential rise in serial killers populating your neighborhood. If this sounds familiar, don't get too down on your luck. You have the most beautiful brown eyes I ever seen. " You log off, wondering if online dating was ever a good idea to begin with.
According to the data, 88% of the “hottest” users make direct eye contact with the camera.
This will help fill your profile with lines that are so unique they could only be written by you, and that will help you stand out from the crowd.” —Evan Marc Katz, founder of and author of “When you send out your initial email to someone, give the subject line some sex appeal.
Instead of sticking with a boring ‘Hello,’ reference something specific in their profile—such as, ‘Sunday NY Times Poolside’ or ‘Barcelona or Bust.’ By writing a fun and specific subject line, you will make connections faster.” —Liz H.
Instead, let's change the phrasing above to, "When I'm not out with my friends on a Friday night, I love curling up under the covers and watching a scary movie (any suggestions? Many men and women unintentionally use language that displays a lack of confidence.
)." In this revised statement, I have turned a cliché into a statement that has personality, flirts with the reader, provides bait and discusses the type of movies that I am specifically into. For example, writing that "I really to meet a man who is smart, fun and handsome," doesn't sound terrible, but the word "hope" implies that you are the one chasing and "hoping" things will turn out OK.