Maybe we could read Jane Eyre and exchange foot massages?" Remember when you were a kid and played doctor with your friends?It isn’t difficult to imagine that for some, the promise of a bit more social currency and safety could be compelling reasons to seek out an opposite-sex partner, even unconsciously.Americans have a well-documented tendency to drastically overestimate the percentage of queer folks among us.We all know the girl who experimented in college and then went back to guys, or the middle-aged woman who left her husband for some turquoise artisan in Taos named Deborah.Both seem to be examples of the stronger sexual preference winning out in the end.When I dated another girl a year later, they were more respectful of the fact that it was an actual relationship. More and more of us are deciding to shirk traditional definitions of sexuality in favor of doing what feels natural. Sure, I got a lot of flack from my friends ("Oh, having the obligatory lesbian fling?
I wasn't bisexual, they thought; I was just going through a phase.It took me a week to talk to him about my epiphany.Coming out to him was as strange as coming out to myself. The biggest question was if I still wanted to be with him, or if coming out was also me realizing that I wanted more dating experience with other women."AB" is being responsive and open to deeper, intimate experiences with women you know, love, and admire -- like the friend you travel with to Europe every summer or the quiet, interesting gal in your book club.Maybe my lonely, single, women friends who've been influenced by outmoded values and religious beliefs, but hungry for appreciation should consider "AB." You may be sarcastically asking, "Am I supposed to nuzzle up to the serene woman in my book club?
I went on to date a number of trans guys, and in my mind, “bi” was also indicative of a gender binary I didn’t believe existed.