As I shared, she responded by saying, “Hearing you share about the challenges you are having in your singleness makes me so glad I am married.” In that moment I was also feeling very glad that she was married and didn’t share the same continued frustration I often feel.As I reflect back on her words, and the things I shared with her that night, I realize a lot of the challenges we face today as singles center around the confusion of intentionality.If someone isn’t making their intentions clear, odds are they may have different intentions or could be fearful in voicing it. Both involved can get blindsided simply because a lack of upfront communication. If more people said “I don’t date just to date,” I think we’d have fewer confused and tormented hearts.Also, men often put way too much pressure on themselves with saying the right words, when in reality, being intentional is what women desire from men.It is a choice to not emotionally give away your heart, piece by piece, to many others through casual dating relationships and instead to give your whole heart to your life partner.
It will steer clear from the confusion, the worry, the stress and the mind games that come with not knowing.
Commitment and intentionality are inadvertently being discouraged by increased opportunities to go on group dates and see members of the opposite sex without pursuit.
Another reason people are choosing a life of singleness is because of the difficulty, confusion and frustration that comes with dating.
It is a decision to walk by faith, to trust in God, to honor others above yourself, and to believe that God will deal bountifully with you, because He is love.
(See II Corinthians 5:7, Psalm , Romans , Psalm 13, and I John 4:8.) Because each individual, family, and set of circumstances is unique, each courtship will be unique.
They will also learn the positive and negative characteristics in dating and what they believe is right for themselves.1)Utah State Curriculum Guide.