• First, observe how you most often express love to others.If you are regularly doing acts of service for others, this may be your love language.Judging from both frequency and "passion," the most pressing questions arising from the last piece involve physical involvement — which I'm about to cover, initiation of relationships (especially the bit about involving the woman's father), and the practical details of how one of these relationships works.All of these topics will, Lord willing, be covered in future columns.How can you say definitively that other things are wrong? Shouldn't our physical relationship "progress" as other aspects of our relationship deepen? I understand most physical stuff is wrong, but what about just kissing? With respect to pre-marital, romantically oriented kissing, we're clearly talking about an area about which reasonable believers can (and do) disagree.Let's go through what I hope will become the usual drill here.Last time I appeared on this site, I said that I would lay out my position on biblical dating and then turn it over to all of you to determine the rest of the column's topics by your questions. As many of you will know from the Boundless blog, The Line, the last piece generated many posts and comments, from the challenging to the supportive, the general to the specific.
Following the presentation, we suggest two books that address the topic of boundaries in human relationships.However, if he is unwilling to read the book, I would suggest you answer the three questions discussed above. We went out to dinner Thursday night.” Such a defensive statement will end the conversation.However, if you respond, “What would you like for us to do? The complaints of your spouse are the most powerful indicators of the primary love language. The first week, you focus on one of the five love languages and seek to speak it every day and observe the response of your spouse. The second week—Monday through Friday—you focus on another of the love languages and continue with a different language each of the five weeks.A marriage preparation program will help you to address these issues more thoroughly. Perhaps it’s a sign you need to consult others with experience or expertise in the area. I know that is not my primary love language.” In the book, I discuss three approaches to discovering your love language.
As a dating or engaged couple, conversation probably comes easily. Just about anything that is, except ugly disagreements.