"I'm trying to go back and really evaluate, you know, where did my book contribute to that? And where was that me and what I was writing, and where was that - the families and the church cultures and so on?
So I feel like I'm on the front end of a process to help people in some way if I can apologize where needed and re-evaluate where needed." Harris, who went on to serve as senior pastor of Covenant Life Church for several years, also expressed disappointment that the message of "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" has been interpreted and used by many as being a legalistic set of rules.
I’d already had my teenage fun, my first snog and many subsequent ones.
Let’s call him Dan, since that was his name, and there are a million Dans, and the chances of his reading this are, at best, minimal.
Many found Harris’ idea to steer clear of dating until they were sure God had sent “the one” absolutely impractical.
If you were a Christian teenager or young adult in the early years of the 21st century, chances are pretty good your youth group did a study on it.
, and thus ignorant of the context into which it was written and the impact the book had already had in the US, where it had been out for some years. The notion that you waited until you were ready to commit to a relationship that had the potential to lead to marriage, and then you pursued it in an intentional, chaste way, was a deeply appealing one. I had also been hurt by a nice American Christian boy at university.
I’d been deeply hurt at university by a guy whose dating philosophy, if you can dignify it with that label, was the opposite of Josh Harris’.
Many have used this fact to discredit Harris and question the validity of the advice he gives in the book.
After all, what advice could someone give another on relationships when that person hadn’t been in a significant one yet and had lived such a short time on earth?
Some go so far as to say the book caused them to miss their chance at a happy marriage. Well, it looks like he’s starting to change his tune a little.