I tended to develop a crush on someone and then Silently Be Intense in their general direction.
The spouse and I met by being placed in the same small college dorm, so we went from being total strangers to being almost-roommates in the course of about two weeks at the age of eighteen, and I haven’t dated since.
When it came to relationships, I spent nearly 5 years single, due to trusting my intuition in the dating process.
I learned that the smallest gut feeling would escalate and eventually end the relationship, so I waited for the right person, who didn’t raise a single red flag, and still doesn’t.
Although not afraid to assert themselves via their auxiliary function, Extraverted Thinking (Te), the INTJ is naturally more passive, even somewhat phlegmatic in his or her presentation.
More proactive types, such as ENTJs, might even consider the INTJ a bit lazy or apathetic.
Not all of these things are true of INTJ female, but they are true for me, and I am hopeful that even one of these lessons will offer some help and clarity in your life’s journey.
Your Intuition Is Never Wrong INTJs have incredible intuition, and it is one of the greatest gifts we possess.
It took me a long time to come to terms with my differences.At nearly 40, I have learned so much about myself and how the fact that I am an INTJ has affected my life path.It hasn’t been easy, and there are a lot of things I wish I would have known in my teens, twenties and even into my early thirties that would have made many decisions and relationsips easier.Of course, INTJs would be the first to tell you that how we define lazy is entirely relative.Because their first job is to function as Intuitive Perceivers rather than as Judgers or actors, operating in a passive mode of perception is actually the sort of “work” they are meant to be doing, work that can ultimately benefit society.