Unlike collegiettes who sometimes feel the need to give everyone the time of day, guys don’t put in any more energy than is necessary.When Brad, a junior at Emory University, wanted to show his now-girlfriend, Caitlin, that he was interested in being with her exclusively, he texted her like he was already in a relationship with her.
I mean, you’re with this guy, you’re spending a lot of time together, you are in a relationship in every single way except for the fact that you’re not technically in a relationship.
When you start dating someone new, the number one thing you start thinking about is probably when you should make your relationship official. Wondering when to start calling that dude you’ve been hooking up with your boyfriend can be super stressful.
If you say it at the wrong time, it can destroy any chance of a future relationship – but the same thing can happen if you wait too long. Well, a recent study done by both Zoosk and revealed something a little bit surprising about when to make things official.
My relationships at that point would go something like this: we would meet, there would be a spark, we’d hang out a few times, after a few weeks I would freak out and feel trapped and suffocated, I would then lose all interest in the relationship and would do whatever I could to sabotage it.
I felt guilty but also kind of alarmed at my inability to feel anything.