Even if he is separated from his wife, that is their business, and you are a threat to their marriage. You may feel that he’s your soul mate but think again. You already know that he's a liar, because he's living a lie with his wife and children. It is no different than being a thief in the night.
A real soul mate would not set you on the sidelines. How can you be sure whether you're the only "other woman" he has? She's been married to him for however many years, cleaned up after him when he's sick, raised children with him, sacrificed with him, dealt with the "damn dailies," then you come in at the 11th hour and provide a contrast to that that's new, and exciting and fun. It is no different than breaking into their house and stealing their things.
” If you’re involved with a married man, and you’re waiting for your turn, it’s time to re-evaluate your situation. No matter how you justify it, you are attacking his family unit.
If you’re putting your life on hold for a married man, he’s not only stolen your heart — he’s stolen your brain!
However, women are notorious for believing lies that married men tell them.
They take every word like it's the gospel of Matthew only to be disappointed in the end. If you've heard these famous lies listed above, you have "taken the bait" hook, line and sinker.
The most important relationship you'll ever have in this world is the one you have with yourself.
It plays on a prospective sexual companion’s sympathies and eliminates any sense of competition. It also portrays the guy as a hapless victim — rather than a calculating perpetrator. Then we need to ask you why you are attracted to a guy who acts like he is a victim? So how do you imagine he will be transformed into an upright, responsible, solid and reliable guy down the road, when it’s your turn to play the “wife” role in his drama? Talk to the countless women who wanted to believe in that fairy tale, too. How do you feel when the next “other woman” enters, stage left?
Do you know the improbability of acheiving a solid relationship with a guy who acts like a victim? What exactly would bring about such a remarkable change in him? Now let’s look at your potential role in such an affair. In starting new relationships, we advise you to choose guys who are totally free and clear.
And eventually, you'll fall in love again — with someone who's willing to make you first in his life!
I see only one problem relationship here, and that’s the one you’re in right now. You were young and in school, long-distance, or experimenting. when you meet a man who is married, don’t ever begin to size him up as somebody you could date.
It makes sense that you dated those men until it was time to break up. Based on how you framed this letter, I assume that this guy is 100 percent married, not out of the house and waiting on his divorce papers. Like Meredith said, you’re not entitled to be with this man simply because your past relationships didn’t pan out.