What we never learn is that rejection, or the discovery that she is far from the woman we need, is just around the next corner.It’s like taking bitter pills with a sweet candy shell.We subconsciously target women who fall into our familiar profile.We have trained ourselves to say the things she wants to hear, and we have learned that she will respond to our approach in a way that will give us instant success and gratification.A lot of men (and women) tend to repeat relationship mistakes.There is a certain ease and proficiency that comes with doing the same thing over and over.It’s oftentimes hard for guys in a relationship to determine if they are in a bad relationship.
We often perpetuate unhealthy behaviour rather than look for alternatives because that is all we know.It’s great for a moment, but then the reality of what’s on the inside becomes apparent.The key to breaking out of ruts is to start challenging yourself by going for the girls who are hard to get or who you have given up trying for. She’s obviously not the type that likes you or that you really need. Break away from the whole picture you have trapped yourself in, from the type of girls, to the expectations, to the places you go and the activities you share. Initial chemistry is the spark that fuels a relationship, but that spark doesn’t always ignite for all the right reasons. How is it that qualities that led us to a person in the first place, can later repel us so strongly and lead to problems down the line?How does that cool confidence that once made us swoon turn into the soul crushing aloofness that distances us from a loved one?
Every guy has times he wishes he was free- for example, when a beautiful girl passes you by in the mall or something- but this applies to the deep down desire to be “free” that many guys feel after being in a relationship they secretly hate.