It was a whirlwind romance and we had a great time while it lasted.
In Omani culture it is looked down upon to date a nonlocal, so he wanted to hide our relationship and we parted ways.
When Shamima met Russell she knew their relationship was doomed from the start.
She was from a devout Muslim family and he was a white Christian.
Dating as a divorcée and single parent can be complicated whatever your geographic location, and doing it abroad is difficult. On the upside, you have access to a new breed of well-traveled and educated men.
The expatriate community is a revolving door, which makes it more challenging to have a stable relationship. I was once approached by a Muslim man in the parking lot of the grocery store.
“They looked me up and down,” she says, “and the following day they introduced me to an 18-year-old male, who owned a clothes shop in a market.”Later on, Shamima’s parents told her they had chosen him to be her husband.And a quick hotel stop, barely long enough to make myself presentable (and stub my toe so badly I could barely slip on my new blingy shoes). For the past month I’d watched swaying palms and the crashing waves of the Indian Ocean from my seaside room in Sri Lanka.All of a sudden my chauffeur-driven friend was downstairs, rushing me along. And now Dubai’s skyscrapers whipped by like so many ramrod soldiers, threatening me with whiplash as I tried to focus on them from below.If that didn’t happen I would have be living a very different life right now.”Growing up, Shamima, one of three, knew her life would be mapped out for her.It’s common in some religious families for daughters to be matched with a chosen suitor – often someone from their previous homeland.
As dusk settled, the searing heat of the summer day softened.