this may seem basic but i’ve talked to plenty of couples who are very comfortable using the bathroom in front of each other (we were too…well only ‘yellow because it’s mellow.’) i get it, it’s convenient, especially if you only have 1 bathroom in your home like we do.
however, this act of having some privacy when you’re doing your business has helped us get down to business more ofte (see what i did there?
Spend an evening stargazing with your wife and talking about dreams you have for the future. Spend an evening reminiscing with your wife about all you've been through together and all God has done and redeemed in your life together. Devote the next month to studying a book of the Bible with your wife. Visit where your wife grew up and where you grew up.
Hold your wife's hand often, in public and in private.
First things first - your spouse needs to come to the top of your priority list - just a bubble behind Jesus.
You need to give your spouse priority access to your time - instead of just the leftovers.
As a counselor who has worked with over a thousand couples, I’m still shocked by the resistance that comes from a simple suggestion of dating your spouse. There are hundreds of books, seminars, conferences, youtube videos, and articles detailing the benefits of regularly dating your spouse.
Yet many still see this as a waste of time, energy and money.
Devote one hour each night for alone time with your wife.
Mark your wife's birthday, your wedding anniversary, and Mother's Day on your calendar every year and plan to make those days special.
Take twenty minutes several nights a week to read, discuss, and pray through a shorter book such as Ephesians or Philippians.
I’m not a natural romantic; but I think I can change that.
I’m realizing that my ability to love my wife well greatly depends on my intentional, ongoing pursuit of who she is and what she’s feeling.
When you were single, dating was a time to get away alone, to talk, laugh, and have fun together.