I would have been dating again within a year if I had not been in a car accident that put me out of action for 9 months.One is ready to date again whenever solitude gives way to loneliness.Mainly because I work such long hours that an amazing date for me involves staying home, not getting dressed and simply snuggling on the couch not doing much of anything.I know, I know…just lost major romantic points here. Many years ago, however, we did a competition for who could create the best dates for or less.
In all honesty, I’ve slipped on this recently and really need to make it a priority again. In fact, 45% of married couples rarely get out for date nights.It is natural to want a partner, but the partner is not a substitute.“One should wait until THEY feel they are ready.No one else can tell you what you are feeling, so only by being in touch with your own emotions can you know if you’re ready.Like pretty much anything related to women, it’s a little complex. “Focus less on being interesting, and work on being interested,” says Francis.“Despite wanting to get something out of it (validation, connection, sex), flirting isn’t just about you.” One of the easiest ways to knock this down: Practice the posture of interest, says Francis.
“Somehow when the commitment is there we feel like we can say ‘Thank God, I don’t have to do that anymore.’ But it’s the opposite.” Shadeen Francis, a marriage and family therapist based in Philadelphia, agrees.