But he is willing to go to my church if that’s what I want. Now, I feel like if I leave, people will think it’s just because of this guy.We have both been praying about it and want to make a wise decision. It's not terrorism, economic recession, global warming or gasoline prices that could hit per gallon by the time you're done reading this.These things might worry you, but something else makes your palms sweat and your pulse hit triple digits: asking someone out on a date." "Look other places for a suitable mate, for the sake of the church don't date someone in the congregation." or at least if you are about to start dating someone in the church encourage them to change churches so the possible damage or gossip will be lessened. There are many risks to dating someone in your congregation.It could cause problems for those who can't handle the fact that the pastor has a personal life and has feelings for someone of the opposite gender. We are both Christians, both desire to have Christ at the center of our relationship and see marriage as the end goal to dating.
During these months or years the minister has become aware of another single adult, of the opposite gender, in the congregation.
The minister's reputation would be damaged and would become a stumbling block to the congregation.
What about the gossip and if the relationship gets messy?!
Even if his or her heart is pure it is just too big a risk for the greater good, so "absolutely not!
The minister could be seen as desperate and preying on the singles of the church.
I don't care if you're the most self-confident, well-adjusted person around; rejection hurts. So instead of asking the person on a date, you go on approximations of dates that allow for plausible deniability of all romantic intentions. Fear of rejection alone has resulted in the proliferation of Starbucks like a French-roasted virus.