At least, as far as one can tell from Tinder: He was a coffee-loving “urban adventurer” from the Midwest and an entrepreneur who walked dogs on the side. So when Nathan (not his real name) matched with Alexandra Tweten, a 28-year-old woman living in Los Angeles, she was eager to start chatting. “It could have been my exact profile,” says Tweten.
In his free time, he could be found digging through all the right vinyl genres: indie rock, shoegaze, electronic, and new age.
Or, more simply, have we just realized that dating freakishly beautiful people isn’t all it's cracked up to be?
A female friend once told me, “It’s always best to date attractive men, but not attractive that everyone’s constantly trying to jump on their dick, because that’s just stressful.” The sentiment actually made a lot of sense to me.
“I’m relieved I hadn’t met up with him or told him identifying information about myself.”As strange as her experience felt, Tweten realized after swapping stories with friends that it wasn’t that unusual: For many women, oddly aggressive, sometimes threatening interactions with men are an all-too-familiar feature of Internet dating.
The misconduct comes in a range of forms: Sometimes, a conversation on OKCupid, Tinder, or another service starts off overly offensive or aggressive, or turns hostile when the woman doesn’t respond favorably or quickly enough.
If you’ve ever had someone look at you during sex with this completely euphoric expression, like, “I ,” you understand that “dating down” in terms of attractiveness can be a confidence boost in its own right.
Sometimes you wonder if these pursuers even read your profile because if they had, surely they would see that you aren’t a fit.
Now, I’m no expert at online dating, but I have noticed a few pitfalls on many women’s profiles that I suspect might contribute to online dating frustrations.
That being said, here are a few thoughts from me and a few other guys on what you might call “profile pitfalls,” for what they’re worth.
From duck lips to general pensive model poses, a lot of women seem to be taking their photo cues from Kim Kardashian.
“These are all interests of mine as well.”Surely, the universe was somehow trolling her. And refreshingly, he had date ideas that extended beyond the default meet-up at a bar. He apologized, explaining that he had meant to call somebody else. She brushed it off, joking that, for a moment, she thought he might have been “a crazy person.” Apparently offended, he started berating her even more furiously.