unwanted sexual penetration after being pressured in a nonphysical way).27.2% of women and 11.7% of men have experienced unwanted sexual contact (by any perpetrator).[vii]One in 6 women (16.2%) and 1 in 19 men (5.2%) in the United States have experienced stalking victimization at some point during their lifetime in which they felt very fearful or believed that they or someone close to them would be harmed or killed (by any perpetrator).[i]Repeatedly receiving unwanted telephone calls, voice, or text messages was the most commonly experienced stalking tactic for both female and male victims of stalking (78.8% for women and 75.9% for men).[iv]About 1 in 5 women and nearly 1 in 7 men who ever experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner, first experienced some form of partner violence between 11 and 17 years of age.[ii]Most female and male victims of rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner (69% of female victims, 53% of male victims) experienced some form of intimate partner violence for the first time before 25 years of age.[vii]A survey of American employees found that 44% of full-time employed adults personally experienced domestic violence’s effect in their workplaces, and 21% identified themselves as victims of intimate partner violence.[iii]64% of the respondents in a 2005 survey who identified themselves as victims of domestic violence indicated that their ability to work was affected by the violence.More than half of domestic violence victims (57%) said they were distracted, almost half (45%) feared getting discovered, and two in five were afraid of their intimate partner’s unexpected visit (either by phone or in person).[iv]Nine in ten employees (91%) say that domestic violence has a negative impact on their company’s bottom line. I , legitimately, walk the planet on a daily basis knowing that there is someone out there that wants to physically harm me. It’s also the easiest way to find yourself outside of my circle of friends.It occurs within all age ranges, ethnic backgrounds, and economic levels.Most female victims of intimate partner violence were previously victimized by the same offender, including 77% of females ages 18 to 24, 76% of females ages 25 to 34, and 81% of females ages 35 to 49.[x]81% of women who experienced rape, stalking, or physical violence by an intimate partner reported significant short- or long-term impacts such as post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms and injury.[iii]An estimated 13% of women and 6% of men have experienced sexual coercion in their lifetime (i.e.I PRAYED and pleaded and THANKED god that he was there, looking over me and keeping me alive. Yes, at some point, I have to start seeing other people again, but I deserve to (and will) give myself enough time to feel ready before I allow someone to buy me dinner.
Trying to find a job, without a car, was embarrassing and difficult. And I lived in a home for the next several months knowing that, at any moment, he could walk back into my life (and my house) because he knew where I was and he knew that my back window was broken out (because he shattered it with his left fist). But when things began to become abusive and I seriously questioned whether or not I’d be given the opportunity to wake up the following morning, I became an evangelical Christian. If dating were the answer, I would’ve started already. I have had the misfortune of dating and/or even marrying women who were psycho and am trying, belatedly, to learn from my bad experiences.I ignored this to my own peril because I was distracted by hot sex or something else.Emotionally abused women state that one of the biggest problems they face is that others seldom take it seriously.These questions will help you identify if you are being emotionally abused, and provide some ideas on what you can do about it. For a complete list of our online courses, and to enroll in any of our courses, please visit learning. Springtide Resources works with organizations, communities and informal groups to help prevent gender based violence & bullying.
Frankly, I don’t trust a lot of people who I do know. Yet there are days that I’m crying before I get out of bed. I have to allow myself to cry in the shower, so that I can keep it together during the work day.