Making a decision on the fly with no forethought is a recipe for going too far. Is it in our best interest to engage in these practices prior to marriage? For those who have adopted the standards of behavior endorsed by today’s entertainment industry, these are stupid questions.
In fact, they are non-questions—meaning they just aren’t asked.
It establishes some human contact, without being creepy.
However, as I recently discovered not everyone feels that way.
Although the hand holding experience I described above made me feel weird, if I’m into someone I have no problem with some physical contact on the first date. 1) Hugging – Everyone is different, however I happen to be a hugger.
Sometimes commitments like this give a false sense of maturity. I think there’s an even more biblical way than just declaring “hands-off.” Though scripture doesn’t address touch in courtship directly, there are numerous key principles we can pull from it to help us sort through this issue.However, if the couple feels like setting a commitment would be helpful to them in keeping it in the right focus, that’s great! For those of you that don’t enjoy reading long posts, I’ll give the short answer now. Paul says in 1 Corinthians , “All things” is pretty broad.Physical touch is lawful for me, but not all physical touch is helpful.When people believe it is to have sex before marriage, a little (or a lot of) touching doesn’t really mean anything. Two young people fall in love and, before they are married, they decide to have sex.Even though current stats show that the majority of high school students don’t have sex, many movies like this present this scene as the norm for young people before they say “I do.” The way it unfolds is true to life. In Genesis , God explains how and when a sexual union between a man and a woman should take place: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (emphasis added throughout). The Bible doesn’t specifically address these areas.
It all starts with physical contact—touching, hugging and kissing. “One flesh” means to have sexual intercourse (1 Corinthians ) and, according to God’s instructions, this is to take place after a man and woman have been joined together in marriage. It does clearly say that we aren’t to have sex prior to marriage (1 Corinthians , New Revised Standard Version).