And as long as I am on the market, I will never, ever pay for a first day–ever!My feelings are that a woman has to have standards and boundaries.Interesting enough, financial concerns were cited as the number one reason why men today preferred going Dutch, however, many of those polled stated that they felt it was unfair, considering that the gap between male and female pay is shrinking, which means that women should be expected to contribute to a first date.Now there are some social cues, which I would be glad to relinquish; helping with my seat or closing the door on my own vehicle. She’s in her mid thirties and has been with the Dutch man in question for many years, so it shouldn’t really come as such a surprise. It did, because she’s been living with this guy for over 10 years, they have 2 children together (not to mention a fairly pricey downtown Amsterdam apartment), plus 3 pesky cats, so why would marriage suddenly be important now? Well, in the lowlands, the rhyme somehow got a little reversed over time.Not one, not two, but countless of my Dutch friends/colleagues have just recently gotten around to the marriage part The highly complex mathematical formula here in the lowlands appears to be: attraction love buying a house together having babies = marriage.
An invitation to a Dutch bachelorette party and a wedding invitation that are signs of a true friendship with a Dutchie.I think also the parties that cultural events that are so large here like queen’s day and carnival.What kind of differences in foods did you experience compared to your own country?However, going dutch, or heck, even paying for a first date, ain’t one of them.In fact, I have never in my 35 years–15 plus years of those spent dating–ever, and I mean ever, had a man try to split a tab with me on the first date.
Of course, ultimately, the order of this stuff doesn’t really matter.