Educate yourself The first thing to do while dating someone with borderline personality disorder is to find out all you can about the condition.
borderline personality disorder is a mental illness characterized by intense fears of abandonment, suicidal statements and gestures, an unstable sense of self, black and white thinking, violent temper, chronic feelings of emptiness and a highly impulsive nature.
In order to understand the dynamic of this couple, we need to answer a very important question.
What was it about this man that attracted a woman with traits of BPD in the first place?
If you feel like one moment your partner loves and adores you and the next they’re verbally abusing and abandoning you for no reason, your partner more than likely has borderline personality disorder (BPD).
Though it's not an extremely common disorder, it’s found in approximately 3.2 million adults in the United States alone, primarily young women.
Usually a person suffering from borderline personality disorder will have rapid mood swings and short, intense emotional outbursts.
This is because your partner may not only be prone to sudden aggressive behavior or outbursts of temper but also give way to impulsive behavior.
Acts like binge-drinking, excessive spending, sexual promiscuity, drug and alcohol abuse, gambling, self-harming and reckless driving are all common in people with borderline personality disorder.
they’re unpredictable and you’ll start feeling always on edge ,questioning your own perceptions because they twist facts and fabricate stories that fit their delusions and extreme feelings.
you’ll be blamed for things you haven’t done, and the closer they feel to you, the more they’ll push you away, because they believe you’re fooling them into trusting you just so that you can carry out your evil agenda to pull the rug from under their feet.
I ride on the high of a new and dazzling possibility. Phase 2: He does something to rock my faith in the relationship. I’m terrified that this person who I was so sure would fix the emptiness I live with every day is going to leave me and it will hurt.