He might feel uncomfortable in social gatherings and prefer to remain in a silent corner with you.Besides taking this as an insult, try to read his mind and seek for means which make him feel less uncomfortable about this shyness." If you answer these questions sincerely and still want to date him, you then face the problem of making it happen - or rather, making him make it happen. They fall outside of the predator-prey model for sexual interactions that is assumed in the "don't initiate contact" rule.So it is acceptable for you to initiate with a shy guy. The problem with male shyness is that it wears off in specific situations.At most, it is a reliable source of advice for women who want to improve their chances with the opposite sex.A post I made about why women shouldn't take the initiative in relationships evoked some questions about how to deal with shy men - after all, shy men don't chase women, and are unlikely to initiate anything.Normally, shy guys consider their silence as an attractive element for girls, which in some cases holds true, but not always.
At the end I give a few thoughts on what to do if there's a shy guy in your life you're interested in.Always remember that every shy guy loves to talk and share his inner feelings, but can possibly do so once you successfully wipe out his awkward silent moments.Set on the journey of love with a shy guy by dating him such that he feels more comfortable and eager to talk in your company.Relationships that start out with this dynamic never really recover, and as months and years pass, you may find yourself in a sexless "just friends"/ roommate arrangement.If you are crushing on a shy guy, I definitely recommend that you read The Rules, by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider.
Dating advice is outside the scope of this site, with this article being a semi-exception.