The reason is simple: her STD does not affect the way I feel about her, nor does it make me look at her as if she is dirty or damaged-goods.
Let’s face it: everybody will say he or she gave me an STD without taking a second look at themselves or acknowledging their own sexual behavior.And sometimes it’s the classic entitled bullshit I face on Twitter all the time: I’m not a jerk for dumping someone who poses a risk to my health, right? It’s just a simple question to you: should I date this person, yes or no?Why on Earth would I knowingly choose to put myself in danger like that? But to me, it feels like you’re asking me to justify my value.Sometimes the question is data-based, about what transmission statistics are real. When you ask me questions about if you should date someone with herpes, I know you’re looking for an expert opinion.Sometimes the question is esoteric, about whether or not he truly knew this woman in the first place. You’ve never given herpes any serious thought before and here I am, a woman with herpes and a blog, who has so generously spilled her guts to the Internet about what it’s like.
The facts on herpes are actually quite clear when you do research online: herpes transmission is not that simple, particularly when both parties make an effort to use condoms, antivirals, dental dams, and so forth.