Preparing for Courtship Courting a Woman Deciding if Marriage is the Next Step Community Q&A Courtship is different from dating in that it is a more traditional form of getting to know a woman, based on spending time with her in public settings, learning about her, and ultimately making the decision if marriage is in the future.Courtship is not so much about regulations, but it's more concerned with selflessness, friendship, and commitment.The concepts presented here are helpful guidelines to consider, but the list is not exhaustive.Each couple, along with their parents or other mentors, must discern God’s direction for the specific steps of their courtship.Depending on the person or family, courtship rules may be different.Many of the Duggar family guidelines focus on physical intimacy including sharing their first “holding hands moment” after being engaged and sharing their first kiss once they are married.All that thinking keeps sex in the forefront of your brain (it's usually only a row or two back as it is! So, when you're on a date or alone with someone you like, those sexual thoughts make it difficult to think about much else, such as what you like about this person's personality or how much fun you're having at the bowling alley.And when you focus on sex, you're a lot more likely to end up having sex.
Yes, sex is a wonderful gift from God, but so are your friends, hikes in the woods, baseball games and playing Trivial Pursuit with your little sister. I've been told that masturbation makes you less of a virgin. Does my virginity mean less because I've done that? But the concerns with masturbation are that it can become a habit that leads you further from God, fills your mind with impure thoughts, and makes your virginity a lot more difficult to keep.And now that I've confessed this mistake to God, what should I do to keep from masturbating? Technically, a virgin is someone who hasn't had sexual intercourse. Here's what I mean: When you masturbate, you're focusing on sex. You might even be thinking about sex with a particular person. This list is NOT meant to be a “checklist,” a “pass-or-fail-test,” or an in depth parental evaluation. My husband, James Mc Donald, created the following questions for the purpose of getting to know potential suitors for our daughters.
Due to the varying theological positions and personal convictions of Christian families, these courtship questions are designed to help disclose important facts that may be significant in both party’s decision of whether or not to move forward in courtship.