When you’re single and actively dating, you may hate it with all your being but you also stay optimistic. When you stop dating altogether, though, you can become harsh and bitter faster than you can get addicted to the latest Netflix show. We think our hiatus will last a few weeks to a month, tops, and then it’s six months later and we’re still seriously single. That’s totally fair, but eventually your dating break is going to make you completely afraid of committing to someone, and that’s only going to make things more difficult. If you never make the effort to date, then you’re probably not going to meet any new people – unless you’re starring in a romantic comedy.
If our big quest is to ultimately meet the right person, taking such an extended break is definitely not the way to get there. Your nights will all blur into one another and soon you’ll be in a total rut, wondering why you never have any fun anymore. You’re going to end up telling your friends how amazing it is to never date and soon your enthusiasm is going to turn to whining and complaining.
Here are a couple of examples and how it turned out for me: Repeating The Same Relationship: In my early 20s, I never put men first in my life. It wasn’t that I wanted him back—I cheated on him for a reason.
Relationships weren’t a big deal to me but I always had someone in my life. I had been dating this guy for almost two years when he found out that I had been cheating on him. It was excruciating to know that I was the reason behind someone feeling that much pain. I went out with a few people but I told them up front that I absolutely wasn’t looking for anything serious.
It can be because we are afraid to be alone, or bowing to societal pressures that tell us we have to be in a relationship, in order to be okay.
It’s often because we are hurt and want to use the excitement of a new relationship to distract us from the pain of the last one ending.
Among them are: I’ve definitely been guilty of this type of insanity.When it comes to post-breakup dating, there are two main philosophies: One is that, if you date right after a breakup, you're rebounding, which is unhealthy.Then there's the whole idea that "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else." Which is right?And I know I was hurting these men because they all knew I could take them or leave them. That’s when I decided to take a break from dating until I discovered what I wanted out of it. At least I was finally being honest with them and myself for once.I knew exactly what I wanted for myself: world travel and my career.
Talk to a therapist, focus on your happiness and get over your hump. And the more quickly you address your issues and heal, the more quickly you can dive back into your second full time job of dating and find your fellow.