Author’s Note: This article is meant to focus on the experiences of cisgender Black women, although the examples and logic can be applied to cis Black men and trans and gender non-conforming Black folks.
I am speaking from my own experiences as a queer, cis Black woman, but each point is not restricted to our experiences.
No matter whether you're the black woman in this scenario or the one judging the hell out of her, chances are, you've stumbled across these societally skewed perceptions of black women while they've been dating outside their race: Because black women have historically claimed the matriarch role in black families, they are expected to be completely devoted to that.
Sure sometimes I'll pay for the date, but other times there is a genuine feel of sharing the bill. Dean: I'm always happy to pay for dates and always will.
It is nice, however, to split the bill once in a while. Brad: I have never had one, but I'd probably spend a couple hours on it and then never use it. As long as it's concise and doesn't have any shirtless mirror pics or photos with tigers.
At the best of times, dating can seem like a search for the proverbial needle in a haystack.
You are told constantly by well-meaning friends and family that the world is full of eligible people.
As I said, I'm not into the whole online dating thing.