A few tips Finally, Set Your Expectations Correctly You’re a guy on a website full of guys trying to land a date.The average response rate I got was around 20% and that’s considered really good. One funny thing I learned last year: Although you are better off tailoring the initial e-mail to the woman’s profile, you can get away with a more generic message if your pics and profile are solid.She responded to his first email, but he thought she was just being polite and about ready to bail on him. You are deciding whether or not she fits the criteria you have for someone you allow to date you. You kissed her ass a little too much in your first message to her. she’s interested enough to at least reply to your message. We are going to work on that in your next email, then go on in the same email to build a deeper connection, which is step two.We are going to pick up after she sent him a reply to his first message. Your dualistic, sort of mysteriousness is going to work for you. You’re a good read of people, knowing or feeling on an intuitive level what they need or want and responding to it so you can help them.As promised, here’s Part II of Gal’s online-dating primer. It will still be up to you to make the first move and you will still need to impress your target. For a guy, the Internet is no different from a club.I’d be more inclined to respond if his email was more upbeat.”-Alicia, 30, Philadelphia“All guys should avoid any reference to ‘the little man.’ Otherwise, Eric gets points for humor, but if he’d weep if everything in my profile wasn’t entirely true, I’d be afraid what he’d do if I turned him down for a second date.”-Christine, 35, Los Angeles, CA“I like the intelligence it shows, but it feels like he takes the joke too far.I’m all for curled-up-in-fetal-position jokes, but he should quickly move on to commenting on something else in her profile.”-Kendra, 30, New York, New York The verdict: Eric gets kudos for originality and sense of humor.
I considered doing it now, but I want her to really want you before you ask for it. Oh, and call her “Red” even though you have her name now. It’s just like a bar where sometimes you’ll strike out and sometimes you’ll hit a home run. My friend showed me a ridiculously brief, canned e-mail he was using with girls on OK Cupid, and he was setting up lots of dates with it.I tried it on Match, and although my response rate was worse, to my surprise it wasn’t by much. However, I would suspect that on a more relationship-oriented site like e Harmony, this might not work so well. It’s amazing how we have almost the same pointers on this type of thing. I usually request a girl facebook me after a message or two. Really let the online dating thing work for you on the first date.Okay, I got a bunch of messages from guys who wanted me to help them out based on the post from yesterday and the day before that on sending online dating emails.(A lot of guys did, and if you haven’t yet, what are you waiting for?
Then our panel of experts and peers weighed in with their opinions. S.: Some of these emails were successful, some weren’t... ) So embarrassing, I just knocked my coffee all over the place cause my cell phone was ringing and I was trying to type and grab it at the same time. A woman who reads Nabokov (I just finished Lolita), likes Al Green and is really attractive as well?