But another big one is the first saying of “I love you.” Whilst we love our mums, dogs and halloumi, being What if they don’t feel the same way? So how do you know when is the right time to say those three little words?One woman recently posed the dilemma in a Mumsnet forum: “I think my new boyfriend wants to say it but doesn’t want me to not say it back, so he seems to be saying it in a jokey way or a roundabout way recently,” she wrote.We surveyed a random sample of 2,072 females in the United States aged 18 to 45 over a course of three weeks to see how long they dated their partners before they got engaged.
Specifically, we wanted to learn the following: We defined each region as the following states: Midwest Region: Illinois, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Michigan, Minnesota, Missouri, Nebraska, North Dakota, Ohio, South Dakota, Wisconsin Northeast Region: Connecticut, Maine, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New York, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, Vermont South Region: Alabama, Arkansas, Delaware, District of Columbia, Florida, Georgia, Kentucky, Louisiana, Maryland, Mississippi, North Carolina, Oklahoma, South Carolina, Tennessee, Texas, Virginia, West Virginia West Region: Alaska, Arizona, California, Colorado, Hawaii, Idaho, Montana, Nevada, New Mexico, Oregon, Utah, Washington, Wyoming The results of our survey were very interesting.
So I did what any reasonable, mature person would do: Instead of just opening up to my partner about it, I immediately ran to 10-15 of my closest friends to talk it out.
I’d say, “I think I’m going to tell him I love him,” and, disappointingly, they all had kind of the same answer: "Wait.
When I told some of my female counterparts I hadn’t heard “I love you” once the relationship had been going past eight months, I felt like I was getting the pathetic face in return.
But I’ve also heard several men say that while they may not say “I love you” as quickly as their women want, they believe they do things to show them that they do.
Wait and see if he says it first."Though my friends never said it so directly, I knew the subtext they were throwing at me, because it’s a subtext I’ve absorbed my whole life.