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How should a godly man go about pursuing a godly woman? I grew up in a home that offered next-to-nothing in the way of instruction on women and relationships, whether from a secular or Christian view, so I understand where you're coming from.
This left me, like you, totally clueless when it came to pursuing a relationship, godly or otherwise. Sadly, when I became a Christian, I was offered little more in the way of instruction, and experienced similar outcomes.
As I now read numerous letters like yours some 25 years after I waded into the world of relationships, I see things haven't changed much.
As a practical matter, are you responsible and holy in the way you possess your own spirit, mind and body?
As you move into the stage of life in which you begin to seriously consider marriage generally or a particular relationship, your first step should be to soberly reflect, before God, on your own spiritual walk and maturity in Christ.
He's attractive, funny, charming, successful and his smile -- let alone the thought of his caress -- makes you weak in the knees.